February 17, 2015

The Heart of a Heart Break

Have you ever had your heart broken? You feel at your lowest point. He hurt you. HOW DARE he do that to you. 

|I loved you. I loved you with every bit of me. I gave you everything, I gave you all of me. More than I have ever given to any other man. What about our history? What about the things you promised me. Marriage? A family? And then you just walk out of my life and leave me to pick up the pieces. I'm mad! I hate you. How could you do this to me? I thought we said forever...|
Sound familiar ladies? We've all had our stay at the heartbreak hotel. Now let's be honest-Who is really at fault here? YOU or HIM? Did you both enter onto a ship that only had one final destination?

When I think back to my own heartbreak(s), I had this very conversation bouncing between my "soulish man" and my "spirit man.":

|Gina! Are you really mad? The bible tell us what a good man is, it talks about how the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord. Are you really mad that everything in the bible is true? That a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways?|
James 1:8 "Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do." (NLT)

In the book of James in that first chapter, it talks about having faith and enduring any trouble that comes your way. Having faith is the epitome of being a Christian. So if trouble comes your way, and you are not sure whether to trust God or take what you see in front of you and run with it-then you are like a wave in the sea, thrown and tossed around by wind. Your loyalty is split and as the scripture reads...they are unstable in EVERYTHING they do. 

Do you make rash decisions? Jump to conclusions because of how you feel? (As my Bishop would say) Reacting rather than responding to life? Are you like a wave being thrown around any kind of way by the wind? We really are "dating" blind here if Christ is not at the foundation of the relationship.

Women, we try so hard to change a man into what we want him to be. Never mind him finding God, NO! We have to be the ones to "FIX HIM." That is God's job and God's job alone!

Yeah, he may have told you he loves you. (Did you know love is an action word?) I say I love God, but God said that if I love Him, I need to keep His commandments. Keeping God's commandments requires some action on my part, and yours! Did this man love you the way Christ loved the church? Did he present you without spot or wrinkle? Had he ever disrespected you? Lied to you over and over? Cheated on you? Called you out of your name? THAT IS NOT LOVE & THAT IS NOT GOD'S BEST FOR YOU!!!

When I really began to dig into the word, and truly understand God's love: I had to think, "Have I ever really been in love?" "Have I ever really been loved?"

A man who has a heart after God, will not just treat you (his rib, his Eve) any ol' kind of way. There MUST be and ARE boundaries. Ones that CANNOT be crossed.

But OH NO, we don't want that! We want what we want, how we want it, and we want it now-Nevermind all that godly stuff! (He does the bare minimum to show his "interest"; he sends good morning texts, calls me "babe" every now and again, I met his family, he hangs out with me consistently, etc.) How many other women is he entertaining? When a man knows what he wants-he goes after it. No second guessing. No waiting. The end. If he has not made it known that his intent is to marry you and please God(and you see the fruit of his roots are not good)- WALK AWAY. You are not an option. You are worth a man shedding His blood, and dying on the cross for you! Do we get this?!

This is where we go wrong. God makes us whole. If you haven't sought Christ, how can you possibly love another individual the way God loves you? If he hasn't sought Christ, how can he possible love you the way God intended? He can't. He can try, or pretend, but you have got to be led by the Holy Spirit.

I truly believe that if you enter into a relationship with a man who isn't completely in love with Christ (like crazy about Jesus!) that you're already beginning at the end. It's inevitable. God will tug on your heart like crazy, trying to pull you closer to Him because that man is pushing you further from Christ.

So what's at the heart of a heart break? GOD. HIS LOVE. If he broke your heart, so be it! Don't you know God can EASILY take care of all of that if you just let Him? God gives you PEACE above all understanding! 
  • Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." (NIV)
  • Psalms 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." (NIV)
Guard your heart! This is so important! Do not get emotionally, physically attached to a man who isn't God's best for you. Let those feelings go!

I think some of us, we don't want to be saved. We like to cuddle on the couch, pop in the romantic movie, and sulk! God is MIGHTY and all POWERFUL! That's the God you serve!!! You may not like when I say this, but you HAVE to forgive him, just as Christ forgave, && forgives you. 

I think one of the greatest lines I've ever heard was "Sometimes, we hold onto the very things that God himself is trying to tear apart..."

God wants your heart, every single space of it. Don't mope around and be sad; instead let God in! Let Him build you back up again. Be patient. Endure. Read the word. Stay focused. Be planted like a tree. Let nothing move you. Guard your heart. Love God with everything you got!

The creator wants to blow your mind...if only you would say, "God none of me. All of you. Take all of me. Not my ways but your ways. Not what I want, but what you want for me. Not my will, but your will." God will give you the desires of your heart according to His will. 

If you haven't already, check out of the heartbreak hotel. Check your heart in with the master and leave it there. That's your forever love. The end.

~My prayer: Lord, heal my heart from any anger or anything that may be there that is unlike you. Teach me your ways. Renew my mind. Help me to truly desire an intimate relationship with you. If I'm wrong in any area of my life, show me. Help me to forgive those who have hurt me. Help me to truly let go of things and people who are not of you. I know you are my provider. Give me strength, Lord. Amen.

February 4, 2015

"Babies R'US" in Christ

Babies are so adorable. Full of beauty, life, and laughter. Unaware of the trials and tribulations that dare to destroy that very beauty, life, and laughter. They're so cute and cuddly! How can one really have anger toward a baby? It's a BABY! Innocence exudes from their very eyes and I believe it is what draws us (adults) to babies the most.

We try to teach babies right from wrong. What to do and what not to do. How to behave and how not to behave. As parents, it is the ultimate duty to instill these types of things in babies and they are to develop as they become toddlers, and so on. Let's say you teach your child that taking things that don't belong to them is wrong. As a baby (say an 8-month old), they're going to grab whatever is in front of them and try to eat it. Why? Because they do not know any better. Let's say this same baby is now 5. I would think they understand this concept a little bit better, however, you still let them slide. Now when this baby is now 13 or 21, they should definitely know better! There's this thing called accountability.

the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility.

I wonder how many of us are babies in Christ? Not fully grown in the things of God. Still wandering, smiling-as if we can make it without Christ. Not a clue, care, or conviction about what will happen if we continue on as we have been. Still not fully surrendering to God, and the milk (the word) we receive runs right through us. I'm here to tell you that it is time to GROW UP!!! It's time to mature into the things of God! Let's look at what the bible says:

Hebrews 5:11-14 11There is much more we would like to say about this, but it is difficult to explain, especially since you are spiritually dull and don't seem to listen. 12You have been believers so long now that you ought to be teaching others. Instead, you need someone to teach you again the basic things about God's word. You are like babies who need milk and cannot eat solid food. 13For someone who lives on milk is still an infant and doesn't know how to do what is right. 14Solid food is for those who are mature, who through training have the skill to recognize the difference between right and wrong." (NLT)

I cringe at the meaning behind that scripture! Spiritually dull? You need to be taught again the BASIC things about God's word?

I think we know the difference between right and wrong...we just don't always choose "right."

Proverbs 14:12 "There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death." (KJV)

The bible teaches us that every man's ways are right in their own eyes, and the way that SEEMS right...leads to death. The only right is CHRIST. Holiness. Forgiveness. Righteous Tongue. If it ain't like God-GET RID OF IT. The lifestyle you're a slave to, the boyfriend who you KNOW ain't God's best for you (but you continue to stay in that bondage), your friends who can't understand why you don't do this/that anymore (act like the world basically)- RID YOURSELF!

I Corinthians 3:1-3 "1Dear brothers and sisters, when I was with you I couldn't talk to you as I would to spiritual people. I had to talk as though you belonged to this world or as though you were infants in Christ. 2I had to feed you with milk, not with solid food, because you weren't ready for anything stronger. And you still aren't ready, 3for you are still controlled by your sinful nature. You are jealous of one another and quarrel with each other. Doesn't that prove you are controlled by your sinful nature? Are you living like people of the world?" (NLT)

Are you a babe in Christ??
Are you still controlled by your fleshly desires? At what point, as Christians, do we takes this thing seriously! The bible is crystal clear-THE WAGES OF SIN IS DEATH. Yes it may "feel good" now...but what happens when the curtains close and the door slams shut?

I think back on my own life, and I certainly used to be a babe in Christ. No real conviction existed inside me. I would sin, go against God, and not even think twice about it. Oh, I went to church too. Cried in service, lifted my hands-the whole 9! I was living off of milk & milk alone. My flesh RULED my body. I did what "it" wanted to. Never realizing that something is to be different. I shouldn't think, act, react, or be like the world. I had to grow up. No one likes to be stripped of things they think they "love" or "need." But it's a process. You know the Holy spirit lives in you when you're convicted of your sin.

& See that's the issue that lives among us today. We post our little "Sunday Message" on Instagram, and then get drunk at a club that Friday or curse a friend out, or fornicate. The saints don't behave like that! NO! This is a everyday, 24/7 walk! We will be on Facebook for hours, sit at a movie for 3, but won't even take an hour out of our day to talk to God. We try to LIMIT a GOD who has NO LIMITS. "Okay God let me just give you thanks with this tweet, tweegram, scripture snapshot", etc.

It's time to grow up and mature. You can't continue on like you have been. God wants every facet of your life. You cannot stay a baby forever. Are you ready? Ready for more than milk?

It is my prayer that you sit before God and cry out to him. He is always there. I don't know your story, but I have been here before. Felt worthless, unfulfilled, and sick of the same old bombshells the devil was throwing at me. There is NEW life in Christ & you never have to look back. He will strengthen you only if you would let Him completely in. DEAD your old life, seek new life with Christ.


~More From Gina~
  • Jesus loves you! He created you! Start where you are: join a ministry, set aside quiet time each day, and get on your knees & PRAY!

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