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The Eligible (Not Perfect) Man: Does He Measure Up?

No man will ever love you as much as Jesus. It. Just. Won't. Happen. So before you open a door, check his eligibility. Is he following after God? With ALL his heart? There is only one STANDARD & if that is not met, don't entertain what you think you want/what feels good. Focus on Him & not "him."

There are 2 kinds of men in this world.

1. Men Who Are Living For Jesus

2. Men Who Are Not Living For Jesus.

Yes, it really is that simple. Should you dare want to be with a man that is living for Jesus. You might ask, what's the difference? This right here is black and white. There are no gray areas, men fall into these 2 categories. You cannot have someone who is in between because you either ARE living for Jesus or you ARE NOT

A man who is living Jesus, he has a heart for God. He respects women & knows the worth women carry. Women were put on this earth FOR men and it is not the other way around. Women today accept SO SO little from men who aren't living Jesus...WHY? (Yes, I am preaching to myself as well, because I use to do the same)

Why has the world of "dating" or finding a partner become the woman paying for the first date & hopping into bed with the man on the very first date? What happened to courting? My worldly advice would be that women hold all the power-and it actually has some truth to it. But, let's look at the bible truth:

"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." (Proverbs 31:10-12 KJV)

Men are natural hunters. They seek after a woman like a man hunts food. There's premeditation, desire, precision, accountability, determination, etc. We are not meant to have sex with 5 or 15 people, play around, and eventually find "the one." God wants us to date His way. COURT!!! (Heather Lindsey explains courting vs. dating very well here.) We are never suppose to know how "good" PJ was or how much better Ray Ray was than Johnny. We are suppose to know no other man than our husband. That's dating, God's way, the way He intended. So let's get back to comparing these two types of men.
  • Men who ARE NOT living for Jesus:
1. Will treat you any kind of way.
2. Probably, more than likely, I'm pretty sure-break your heart-and not have one ounce of remorse.
3. Provide a false representation of what a real man should be, and he's very convincing while operating as the world does.
  • Men who ARE living for Jesus WILL:
1. Regard you as a valuable object, more precious than rubies.
2. Build you up & push you CLOSER to Christ.
3. Marry you (godly men seek a woman for a purpose...usually to marry)

Real men worship God. They do not have time to be messing with Vicky, Suzie, & Ashley. Why start something with a woman, MEN, if you don't plan to finish the course......->MARRIAGE??

This is how us women, (I have done this plenty of times), end up crying on the bathroom floor & throwing the ultimate pity party, WHEN GOD PROBABLY NEVER INTENDED FOR YOU TO ENTERTAIN homeboy.

Ladies, we need to set the record straight. Let's stop blaming men...we need to take responsibility for our own heartaches. "Oh he's a dog." or "Some girl must have really hurt you." NO! Examine your own self, the bible says. Men of the world operate as they do because it is learned behavior. A man can only respond to what's repeatedly being PRESENTED to him. Let's vow to break the cycle. GUARD your heart above ALL things. If he ain't chasing Jesus with EVERYTHING he got, you need to be! What is for you, is for you. 

I encourage you to evaluate the "ineligibles" in your life. What is their intention with you? To kick it with you for a season? When a man desires something, he goes after it. You don't need to do ANYTHING. You may say, "well what if he isn't ready?" or "what if he just had a bad break up?" Then you need to RUN, RUN, RUN! ---> RUN TO JESUS!

Let Him be your everything. Spend time with HIM. I use to feel like I had to have someone I am "talking" I couldn't just be alone. Someone to text, see movies with-NO! NO! NO! Even the bible references the preference for us to be single.

"I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." (I Corinthians 7:8-9).

"The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way." (Psalms 37:23).

"An ungodly man diggeth up evil: and in his lips  there is as a burning fire." (Proverbs 16:27). 

God has His best for you. He wouldn't have you with anything less. Your current relationship, he doesn't have to be perfect, however, he needs to be eligible. Check his heart. And if you're single, looking to court, check his eligibility. Open the bible. Does he measure up?



  1. AWESOME!!!!!! It's so much BETTER to wait on GOD'S BEST for your life!!!

  2. I totally loved this post! I found your blog on the pinky promise bloggers for Christ and I'm so glad I did. Thank you!

    1. Thank you sooo much!! God is awesome, so happy/thankful you enjoyed it! :-)


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